Stuart wrote:

If your partner was submissive?!?

You need a new partner?

Originally posted by Boots:
Either I'm just really hot, my sweetie isn't interested in the 'wrapping paper' OR this lingerie stuff is all a hoax.

So which is it?

I'm of the opinion that lingerie is something that's nice occasionally.  My wife has some really cool garments, but if she were to wear them all the time, what's the point?

Aside from that, there's also the "Aw, you bought that?" thing, because it's something that the woman put thought into, trying to look good for her man.  It makes us feel special, which most people don't take into the equation.  Just like flowers, I think.  I don't buy flowers very often, because I like to get them as a surprise... meaning that my wife does not get them for Valentine's day or any such "special" occasion, because they would become expected, and I would no longer be "thoughtful".  I think lingerie runs along those lines.  Somebody buying something, or putting effort into something is a real turn-on, no matter which side of the gender fence you happen to fall on.

The thing is, and I'm trying to convince my wife of this, effort is essential.  If one person is putting effort into the relationship and the other isn't, what good is that?  That means that I will pick her something up (a rose occasionally, or something), to remind her that I'm thinking of her.

My favorite one is this... we go to the same college, but our classes often require us to use separate vehicles.  What I'll do is write her a little note and stick it on the steering wheel of her car.  Not all the time, just once in a while... Man, the response is great.

Problem is (getting back to the rant side of the whole thing) So many things make it seem like this is how it always is.  It ain't, and to perpetrate such expectations isn't fair.  Of course my wife is in my thoughts much of the time, and hopefully vice versa, but passion, or sexuality since that's what the media sells as passion, is not a constant.  Comfort is more essential, to me, than simple "Hey baby," and POUNCE!  I'm a guy, I like my nighttime exercise, but even if it's doing the dishes, so long as it's a thoughtful gesture, that helps.

Of course, my wife works on cars, which is cool for me, because that gives me a reason to get her in the shower... *grins*

Boots - yes, yes it does.  Though whether it does so to the degree that makes it worth the extra money is debatable ;)

Em - you need a good code editor that will point things like that out to you in advance :)

i rarely have semicolon and other such problems in my formal writing. not that i could tell you where they go if you asked. my grammar, etc works almost entirely on instinct. i still have no idea what a noun is.

Not on satan sheets though

hehe, are those the black ones with a big red inverted pentagram on them? ;)

that's right...you go to a concert to see the concert, anything else is just not right.

It'd be like buying a novel just to read one scene....

Though I must admit I'm guilty of it myself, having left an album launch of a band I was only vaguely interested in after having seen the very first support act - whom I had never heard of before, and were absolutely brilliant - I knew I wasn't going to enjoy the main act anywhere near as much, and there was still an hour or two of standing around in a small smoky bar surrounded by drunk metalheads, and all the other support acts were death metal which I'm really not interested in.  So we went home.  (I do feel a little guilty about it though)

On the wrapping front, chicken fillets, that's a con, there's no other way to dress it up.  I have no size issues whatsoever but I'm sure it's more common than a chap paying a visit to the local deli before going out on a date; except the ladies enhancements aren't actually made from speciality meat products (I don't think).

As per your question Em, it was a speculative suggestion, not a request ;P

Stuart wrote:

As per your question Em, it was a speculative suggestion, not a request ;P

*pouts*

Nope, that isn't just you. My SO feels exactly the same. I feel somewhat the same, except that I don't respect property not quite as much. (Not even my own.)

Yalahii.

When shows like CSI get their technical data wrong - going through collected fibers:  alpaca . . . cashmere . . . satin . . .

*blink*  Satin???  Satin is a type of weave, NOT a type of fiber.

*rolls eyes*  Please, their entire wardrobe department should have called that one!

Stuart wrote:

I will maintain my british stiff upper lip even in the face of your pout, I shall not waver.

Just don't cry.

*quivers lower lip*